You see it everywhere. Everyone wants to be successful, prosperous, create abundance, and attract wealth! And, every once in a while, you see disgruntled comments from people about how manifestation of success doesn’t work for them. If you fall into either of these categories, here are several steps you can take to move you further along this path.
Envision your success. Don’t just create a mental picture, but wrap the emotion, the feelings, the smell and taste of what that success is around those pictures. Sometimes we have to start with what we don’t want – so make that list down the left hand side of a piece of paper. On the right hand side, directly opposite, flip that thought around to reflect what it is that you want. Now, tear off the left hand side of the paper and throw it away. Focus on what it is you want, and get very clear on what that is. How do you create the vision? Find pictures to depict what it is you want and create a poster or book you can review every day. Create a screen saver with words that have meaning for you, and take the time to read it multiple times a day. Close your eyes and sniff the smells, savor the taste, and feel the emotions connected to each of those pictures. Share it with five people. Get excited – this is your very own, unique success – and you get to choose what it looks, tastes, smells and feels like.
Stay focused. Women have a skill men have been trying to emulate for years. Multi-tasking. It turns out, multi-tasking is not particularly good for us – we lose the ability to focus on a particular task until it is completed. We get distracted, overwhelmed and frustrated. And, then there is worry. Many of us re-live the past over and over, fretting until we make ourselves sick, or we are constantly worrying about the future – asking “What-if, then” questions over and over. Living in the past or the future doesn’t help us all that much. One is over with, and can’t be changed. One hasn’t happened, and can’t be controlled. The best way to stay focused is to get organized and stay that way. And finally, when looking at that “ginormous” To-Do list , ask yourself a few critical questions – a) What is the most important thing I have to do right now? b) What will have the worst consequence if I do not get it finished? c) What will get me closest to my success goal? And finally, because we want to celebrate success multiple times a day, d) can I finish this most important task that must be done to get me closer to success today? If the answer is no, break it down into smaller chunks, prioritize those, and spread them out over several days. Get done what you can commit to today, and turn the rest of it over to your higher power for the time being. Revisit your “To-Do list again tomorrow, and celebrate the completions!
Create awareness around, and eliminate, limiting beliefs. From the first day of life, we have been conditioned by our parents and grandparents; cultural beliefs toward race, gender, age, education; experiences in pre-school, school, and at work and play. These experiences have led to beliefs that are deep down inside of us, deeply imbedded in who we are. They can be subtle or out there for all to see. Sometimes the show up as negative self talk like, “”Women are not good with numbers.” “Women are too emotional to run a company.” “All salespersons are pushy and sleezy.”, “or “What I do provides no value, so therefore, I cannot charge money for my services.” These are limiting beliefs because they do not support your vision of success. They become the monkey-mind that creates inertia in moving your vision into reality.
Good news! Everyone has them, you are not alone. Keep track of what those voices are saying to you over a period of time, and create the awareness for yourself of what your limiting beliefs are. Now, follow the same steps we talked about in #1. Throw away the side of paper with the limiting beliefs, and concentrate on the positive beliefs that support what your vision of success. For example, “I believe my services are extraordinarily valuable to my clients, and I am charging a fair and reasonable fee that allows me to support my business and my family.” “ I believe my leadership style is collaborative and effective.” Just as with your vision, visit your attention on the beliefs that support your success on a daily basis.
Practice the art of selfulness. Put yourself first, and practice extreme self-care. Get over those feelings of guilt and selfishness that come from your limiting beliefs. (“I can’t go on vacation, I won’t get everything done” or “I’m the only one that can do this”) I am not suggesting you walk away from everything or everybody. It is important, though, to get enough sleep, eat healthy food, say no to requests that don’t further your values or priorities in life, ask for help, relax, establish a routine, and practice your spirituality. Make a list of things you want to do to take extreme care of yourself, and start with one today. Ask your heart, “What is it that I need today?”
Create joy by adding value. Everyone has expectations around who we are and what we do – at work, at home, in social settings, and in our spiritual community. Adding value by fulfilling those expectations, and then going the extra mile, at little or no cost to ourselves, is incredibly powerful. Looking only for the biggest payoff of all – joy – we become incredibly attractive to those around us.
In business, adding value for your customers and co-workers makes them feel like there is no one they would like to work with more than you. In your personal life, simply adding value to everyone closest to you will make them delighted with that closeness, and increase the attraction of staying in a devoted relationship.
Where do you want to start? What is having the most impact on your ability to achieve success right now? You have the power to choose a successful life by taking action today! We are starting a new quarter in the Fearless, Feisty and Free to Succeed group right after the first of the year. We would love to have you join us! Click here for registration information.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. She provides support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.