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Everyday Heroes

August 9, 2010 in Compassion, Love, Relationships, Understanding, Values

I’ve had this thought strolling through my head for about a week now and it just won’t go away.  Generally, when this occurs, it means that I need to do something with it.  Most often I just write about it, but I feel like there is something more to this.  It feels like I need to do something, start something, or ask people for something…

The phrase that won’t go away is “Everyday Heroes”.  So, today, I did what I always do, I got on to the internet.  There were 483,000 hits for that phrase – including the song, the lyrics, comics and even a play.  There were places to put your nominations for your heroes, and news sites, videos on YouTube, and pictures portraying everyday heroes.   However, there was one website that made me stop.  I really wanted to spend some time there.  The website is http://charityfocus.org and it is devoted to sharing kindness throughout the world.  You can subscribe for free to a daily good news email and a variety of other activities – for free.  On this website, you will find many ideas and suggestions for spreading kindness throughout our community. 

I am thankful for the individuals who serve us – our police, firefighters, paramedics – they all do wonderful heroic things every day.  Relatively few of us will ever have the opportunity to take on a situation that will require the actions that fulfill that definition of a hero.  On the other hand, we all have the opportunity to be an everyday hero. 

As we grow older, we often are pulled “to make a difference” in this world.  I wonder what would happened if each one of us made an effort to be an everyday hero – in a very simple fashion.  What if we made the effort to say thank you, to do something kind, or just to smile?  What a difference that would make!

I have two requests: 1) Every day for a week do just one act of kindness – random or not.  If it feels good to you, continue.  2)  If you are interested, I would love to receive your everyday hero stories.  Send them to me via e-mail and I will write about them on my blog and let the world know about the wonderful people who ask nothing, but give everything – often with just a hug.

Favorite Ideas for Kindness Acts (from Charity Focus: Helping Others)

  • Next time you cross the toll booth, pay toll for the person behind you.
  • Drop off a plant, flowers or apple pie at the police department.
  • Write notes or bring flowers or goodies to your past teachers.
  • Take flowers to a hospital ward and leave them for someone who hasn’t had any visitors.
  • Write a thank-you note to a person from your past that has made a difference in your life.
  • Surprise your neighbor by mowing their lawn.
  • Bring home-cooked meals, blankets, a bathroom kit and/or socks to a homeless person in your local community.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her websites are http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where you can find her blogs about business and career, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and http://www.georgiafeiste.com where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.

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American Idol – A Lesson In Purpose

March 12, 2010 in Creativity, Enjoyment, Fearless Feisty and Free, Motivation, Purpose, Values, Vitality

I know – what does American Idol have to do with mind, body, and spirit?  I just read the interview with Scott MacIntyre on the American Idol blog and felt compelled to share my thoughts about this delightful young man who became an early favorite of mine in the competition last year.

Scott is blind, or nearly blind.  This endeared him to me right away because my son, Josef, is legally blind with a progressive eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. So, we’ve established there is an emotional side to my feelings about Scott. 

I also admire his determination to follow his dream no matter the obstacles needing to be overcome.  Scott has a passion for music – he plays the piano very well, he writes music and lyrics, and he wants a career in the music business.  Scott created a vision for himself, recognizing his own personal purpose for being here on this earth.  He is using the gifts he has been given, and he let’s nothing get in the way of his pursuit of his dream. 

Scott’s life is an abundant life.  He has made himself vulnerable to the flow of life washing over him, and like water has flowed with it.  He has had to deal with afflictions that would bring many of us to our knees, and he hasn’t let that happen.   We would do well to watch him as he progresses through his life; not to place him on a pedestal, but to observe how he goes about becoming the best person he can be.  

When asked in the interview what he would do to help this year’s contestants, he responded:
“… I would take them in a room with me and coach them! [Laughs] We could all use a little prodding”

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She specializes in career and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Georgia is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach, where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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Truth-telling – A Soul Cleansing Breath

February 22, 2010 in Balance, Communication, Values, Wisdom

I’ve been concentrating on truth-telling over the last couple of weeks while preparing a workshop I gave last weekend. The lesson was wrapped around the concept of being a truth-teller, the cost and rewards of being a truth-teller, and the impact it has on you and those around you. It could be a heavy topic, and as always it generates a great deal of conversation when you open it up for discussion. What came up for me as I worked on the lesson, and the exercises for my clients, was the need to always tell myself the truth about any situation. I commonly say “I don’t have time to (you name it). I’m busy with taking care of my family, networking, volunteering, and my coaching business. ” Yes, all of that is true, but the real truth is that I am just not doing (you name it). If I honestly look at my day, I could have found the time, but I rapidly filled my day with nonsensical activities that were not fulfilling my values or meeting my needs.

There are a couple schools of thought about what truth is. I have taken coaching classes from Dr. Maria Nemeth who teaches that truth is the facts of what has occurred in physical reality. Thomas Leonard, on the other hand teaches that truth is sometimes deeper and more profound than the facts that have been presented as truth, and is what is so for you. This may be the difference between two philosophies – the ontological approach to coaching vs. the psychological approach to coaching. Regardless, both statements hold some merit of accuracy for me.

The discovery of truth is at times a process. It changes over time as we get more in tune with who we are, and make discoveries about our world and how it works. For me, it’s important to hold your truth lightly, and not let it become a rule that will not allow you to explore with curiosity and delight. In addition, my truth is not something to hold out for others to adhere to; they are living their own truth and are on their own path.

I’ve also discovered that there aren’t that many people interested in the truth, and it’s important to me to surround myself with those that are. When I am required to work with people who are not, I must be prepared for the consequences of being direct and I must take care when sharing my thoughts. Truth-telling must be intentional and well thought out. It requires me to be sensitive, and choose the time for truth carefully. It does no good to share truth when it will not be received because the person we are sharing with is not ready to hear it.

I think that this is one of the most important lessons we can learn, or teach, for that matter. It makes the biggest difference in our lives, and if we are lucky enough to have been given children to raise, it is one of the most valuable things we can teach them just by doing.

Still your mind, and look around you and inside you. There you will find your truth, the most important truth of all. You will not find it in a book or classroom. You will find thoughts and interpretations there which you must sift through in order to find what holds meaning for you. Believe in the truth you can perceive with your five senses – the truth of physical reality and what you feel in your heart. Once you have recognized the truth, your mind and body will rapidly adjust.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She specializes in career and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Georgia is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach, where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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Distinctions: Respect vs. Recognition

February 10, 2010 in Fearless Feisty and Free, Perception, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Relationships, success, Understanding, Values

I’ve been reading quite a few articles and blogs lately about the importance of recognition in the workplace. Recognition programs are used in an effort to improve employee morale, and companies spend a great deal of money on team events, gifts, recognition cards, and other paraphernalia in the attempt to make that happen.  I have been mulling this around in my mind for several days now, and wanted to share with all of you some thoughts on the difference between recognition and respect.  Does one feed the other, or are they distinctly different?

Recognition comes from the Latin recognoscere, meaning knowledge or feeling that someone or something present has been encountered before. Modern usage is of the word signifies special notice or attention. Recognition, for me, is about praise for actions, attitude, or work well done. Or, it can be about reprimand for attitude, actions or work that is not up to expectation; the shadow side of recognition. Individually, recognition is about striving for external validation that what you are doing is meaningful and making a difference, earning praise from your family and friends, superiors and peers, as well as customers. From a company perspective, this is good information to have, as feedback, but does it fulfill the intentions of improving employee morale? At a personal level, does it improve self-esteem?

Per the Merriam-Webster dictionary, respect comes from the Latin respectus, meaning to look back or regard. Modern definition is about high or special regard, or esteem. My interpretation of respect is about holding the individual in your heart as valid, knowledgeable, confident, and excellent at what they do. It is about giving them your full attention, listening deeply and fully so they know you get them. Respect has a power to it. A deep flowing of positive energy, and comes from a strength of character within the person giving it.

It occurs to me that recognition is about receiving, while respect is about giving. Do you agree?

As a manager or business owner, it is good to know that when you and your employees treat each other with respect, and all your actions and attitudes flow from that perspective, there will be no need for a recognition program. Feedback will flow freely, because both positive and negative feedback will be given out of respect for the individual. Learning in your organization will happen by example. Boundaries will be known, and standards will be set. The expectations will be well explained and widely known.

From an individual perspective, respect is an internal action taken in creating balance and integrity in your life. It is the intentional choices you make to live your values and your priorities, bringing you to a state of non-judgment. For example, if one of your priorities is to watch what you eat and be as physically active as you can, respect comes from not beating yourself up over the cookie you ate at the potluck you attended, but in giving conscious thought to your next meal. It means if you exercised three times in a week, when you intended to exercise five times, you celebrate the three times you were able to exercise, and continue to work toward meeting your intentions. It means you give yourself the time you need to enjoy the things you love to do and bring forth the creativity in your life.

How will you give yourself and others respect today and in the future?

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She specializes in business, career and personal life transitions.  Coming from a 30 year background in a C-level corporate position, she is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach, where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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You Are the Opportunity to Recreate

February 4, 2010 in Purpose, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Values

By Laurie Wondra

At any given moment we have an opportunity to recreate. You may think of this as a do-over or a mulligan, but regardless, it is an opportunity to pause, think, and set new direction. Many individuals however use this time to redo exactly what they just did. Sameness means comfort for many of us and we like living in comfort. Others are numb to what has happened and certainly are not aware that THEY have the power to manifest newness in any area they desire. The laws of the universe has us reliving or redoing situations over and over again until we learn the life lesson or we decide we are done and declare completion. Once we take that step, we are free and we move in a new direction. When we move in this new direction we are AWAKE, also commonly termed as awakening or being awake. An awake moment is an ah-ha moment that we feel when there is clarity of who we were, what we were doing, knowing it didn’t work for us and consciously deciding to live differently. We are the force that will change us.

I remember well in my early to mid 20′s a string of dating ‘same’ men. I call them same men, because though I knew none were right for me, I continued to attract and then fall in and then out of relationship with them. I was frustrated with seemingly always achieving the same results while believing I was changing and adjusting who I was looking for. I remember laying on the floor in my living room, crying and writing in my journal that this was just the universe trying to show me a life lesson and knowing that until I learned that life lesson I would forever continue in this spin. The crying wasn’t from a broken heart, but more from frustration in trying to figure out the lesson. I also remember writing, OK I GOT IT, NOW JUST LET ME MOVE ON!! The truth was, I didn’t have it, and the universe was not going to let me move on until I figured it out.

This repeat same-man dating was not aligned with my philosophy and the spinning felt like wasted energy. Not sure how to leave this ‘same’ men spin, I simply stopped dating and focused on my career, traveling and my exercise regime. It was at that time that I began to meet ‘real’ men that were of substance and the relationships had duration and eventually marriage and then eventually divorce. And at that time I learned my most valued lesson. I’d lost myself and that spin time was a point when the universe was directing me to pay attention to ME. When I wasn’t paying attention to ME, I lost myself and my goals, again. The goal of marriage and kids were foreign but felt right for that next phase of my life or what I would call now, my next lesson. I realize now that when I moved into that phase it further allowed me to lose me or to hide. I was so busy for the next 18 years with my family, kids and career that ME didn’t emerge until I let go and said ENOUGH. At that time I found me. There are many lessons in life, and we must remember we chose to come to earth to have all these adventures (lessons), so we should expect challenge, and we should expect growth knowing that when we don’t grow and we feel frustrated, the universe is telling us to stop, focus and learn this lesson.

  • Set your goals with purpose and commitment.
  • Do not lose yourself while achieving a goal.
  • Do not focus on a goal that is not your own.
  • If you feel you are in a do again situation, know you need to stop and learn the lesson.
  • Once you’ve learned the purpose of the event, you are free and you will freely move in another direction.

Many people live an entire lifetime redoing an event, relationship or situation because they are not awake in their living. Focus on being awake and alert.

Laurie Wondra, CEC, is the Global Application Leader for a Minneapolis based company and is president of Cornerstone Coaching. Prior to her current position, she was CIO/Director of Information technology for other Twin Cities based organizations. Leading global teams and integration of business systems requires not only meshing hardware and innate processes, but also culture and teams. By applying her coaching skills, she has been able to create a team approach that isn’t plagued by the traditional “what about me’ syndromes – open communication and opportunity identification has taken care of these often habitual plagues. Team members are respected, see their role into the future, and are appreciative of the opportunity to learn the processes of other countries and cultures. Laurie also teaches communication and other courses built around building and maintaining effective high team performance in any environment. She is a light-energy worker, helping individuals and teams align dreams with reality.

Laurie is a life-long-life learner and has a passion for life, travel and working with people.

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Going With The Flow

January 20, 2010 in Creativity, Purpose, Purposeful Employment, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Spiritual Connection, Values

As I was working with my coach yesterday, I told her I felt a shift in energy over the last couple of weeks. I can feel events unfolding and moving forward. There is an excitement, and a feeling of being in the flow, that I have felt before, when things seem to be creating right before my eyes. I feel more fully alive. I have many ideas, and I’m learning that while I can work on several at a time, I’m scheduling appointments with myself so that I might complete them one by one. And, in the words of my favorite grandmother – “Honey, you don’t have to try so hard.” What a wise and wonderful woman!

Deng Ming-Dao says “When Tao comes to you in this way, ride it for all that you are worth. Don’t interfere. Don’t stop…Don’t try to direct it. Let it flow and follow it…As long as the song lasts, follow. Just follow.”

By aligning our values and priorities, the “who” we are willing to be, with the gifts and strengths we have been given, we allow the co-creative power of the universe to move us in the direction of wholeness. This is a position of integrity and creativity. We will be brimming over with new ideas to rest up against our values, and if it feels right, move forward into new accomplishments and new projects in which to participate.

When you are in touch with this energy, your creations come from the very essence of who you are. You bring forth your authenticity in your intelligence, your talents and your behaviors. You will know you are living your purpose and your passion, moving from job to vocation, when you feel alive as you bring your dreams into reality. Sit quietly and listen to the truth of your inner voice, and then bring your unique self to what ever you are doing – writing a book, attending a board meeting, cooking a meal, coaching a client, or driving a taxi.

Release any resistance you might have to your inner talents, ignoring judgment and criticism, as you bring your gifts to the world. Let go of the doubt and fear you’ve walked hand and hand with on your life’s journey, and move forward to embrace who you know you are. It might be helpful to think back to your childhood, before you had time to absorb the teachings of your tribe. Can you remember the natural essence of you, who you are?

The most beautiful message any of us can ever receive is “Honey, you don’t have to try so hard.” When you are working in the flow, it is not hard. It is joyful and you are filled with gratitude.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She specializes in business, career and personal life transitions.  Coming from a 30 year background in a C-level corporate position, she is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach, where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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The Journey of You

January 15, 2010 in Acceptance, Compassion, Love, Motivation, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Relationships, Values, Wisdom

A friend of mine sent this quote from Mike Robbins to me today. 

“The ultimate goal of being ourselves in an authentic way is actually about loving ourselves in a generous way.  if we truly love ourselves, most of what we worry about and even much of what we strive for in life becomes meaningless.  We may still have some worries, and we’ll definitely continue to have goals, dreams and desires.  However, from a place of true self-appreciation and self-love, the fear behind our worries and the motivation for our goals dramatically changes from something we have to avoid or produce in order to be accepted and valued to something we’re genuinely concerned about or really want to accomplish.”

What a beautiful thought, and I love how it portrays the journey we all begin.    When you come from a place of self-love, seeing the divinity within yourself, it is much easier to view the world with love and compassion.  Our concern for others, and our desire to serve becomes much stronger because we are no longer expending energy dwelling in the past or future, but living consistently with each situation and person in the time we are given today.  We are no longer trying to “keep up with the Jones’”.  We are more content with who we are, and are no longer defining ourselves by whether or not we have the biggest toys, the nicest clothes, or the most highly decorated house.   

The journey is not without it’s stops and starts, or even the pain of climbing a mountain of self-pity, and the ravines of victimization.  It is, however, a journey worth taking – if nothing else but to say you did, and you are a better person for the experience.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  She provides support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow.  Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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When Your Goal is to Live in Happiness

December 22, 2009 in Balance, Prosperity, Purpose, Purposeful Employment, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, retirement, Spiritual Connection, Values

Have you noticed the culture we have grown accustomed to is changing before our very eyes? People we know and love are losing their homes and their jobs – some are losing their very way of life. They are being given a perfect opportunity to create a major shift in their lives. One that can be very painful to live through, but creates a life of peace and contentment.

I’ve watched my friends begin to worry and fret as their jobs were eliminated. Concerns range from the ability to pay debt, continue to put children through college, and keeping the home they were stretched to pay the mortgage on when both partners were employed. When my last corporate job was eliminated, my family and I were also concerned about our future, and not being able to live out our retirement dreams.

What I have discovered, and want to share with you is that when you let go of the frenzy and the worry about the future, and reach deep inside to find your passion and your purpose, you are more productive. When you choose to work and live from your values and your priorities in life, everything you need will appear at the appropriate time. By approaching a career shift or retirement from this perspective, and letting go of the worry, the actions you take will propel you forward, and your needs will be met or exceeded.

Making the choice to live with intention, calls motivation into play. Being very clear on what your motivation is, and creating action around that, is what creates forward momentum – it eliminates confusion and mixed messages. Motivation is created around your priorities, and what you value. For example: If your highest priority is to be willing to be a loving family member to your husband, children, parents and siblings, decisions based on that priority will create forward momentum – you will work to grow your business to the point it provides the income you need, but doesn’t take away from the time you desire for activities with your family. If another high priority is to be willing to give back to the community, and to live creatively, your motivation may be to provide theatrical entertainment directed at families that is uplifting and fun.

Choosing to live with intention does not mean you need a long list of goals, especially those that are based upon achieving status and material wealth. That type of list often produces anxiety, stress, competitiveness, and leaves you feeling unfulfilled. I have discovered when my goal is to live in happiness, what I need begins to flow into my life – the right people, finances and opportunities. Choosing to be grateful for what I have, and “loving what is”, is more profoundly impactful than material possessions or status. You find that when you shed the desire for status, you will lose the need to compete. When you shed the drive to have the biggest toys in the neighborhood, you will become grateful for what you have.

The third verse of the Tao tells us “when action is pure and selfless, everything settles into its own perfect place.

 Happy Holidays to You and Yours!

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, located in Lincoln, NE, is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  She provides support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow.  Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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Purpose – What Problem Are You The Solution To?

December 21, 2009 in Grounding, Motivation, Physical Health, Prosperity, Purpose, Purposeful Employment, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, retirement, Thought, Understanding, Values, Vitality

I spent the morning with my good friend, Stella, today. We share many common interests including coaching, spirituality, love of nature, and the healing power of love. As usual, our conversations were all over the place, from her impending move to Montana, the growth and development of Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, my desire to put together a Spiritual study of the differing world religions, and how to know what your niche is as a coach.

My dilemma in defining my niche has been two-fold. First, as a coach, we are often told to coach what you know. Well, I know a lot. How do I pick? Secondly, we are often told that we will begin to see a pattern around who is coming to us for coaching. OK, but it appears on the surface that people are coming to me for a variety of reasons – and there is no real pattern. All I could see was the synchronicity of what people were coming to me to be coached on: transitions I had completed in my life, or was close to completing, or were percolating along in the background. She then asked me a very “coachy” question – “What problem are you the solution to?”

I looked at her with this dumbfounded look on my face, I’m sure. The common thread, of course, was transitions. Moving from one stage of life to another, from a future dream to dealing with the present, from being a desirable and successful employee to being RIF’d, from full-time employment to solopreneur and retirement, from my mother role to supportive friend and confidant, and on and on. Yes, I know a lot – but the one thing I’m getting pretty darn good at is transition and change.

My next question was “what changes have you needed the most help with?” Ah, that was an easy one.

  • Learning that one of my children had an incurable disease that would leave him permanently disabled over time.
  • Learning one of my children was gay and the dreams I had from the time I conceived this child needed to be set aside, and new dreams built together, based on who he was. 
  • Getting to my mother-role of supportive friend and confidant to both of my children.   
  • Career transition – Knowing in my heart about six years ago that I no longer wanted to continue with the job I had held for better than 25 years, but stayed with out of loyalty I felt for the company and my family’s future. And, then being RIF’d from that same job three years later along with many other souls. My unhappiness had come through, and the Universe decided to do for me what I could not do for myself. However, my transition took the form of recognizing that I was not my job, nor was my job me.
  • Taking another job in a major insurance company, going through that transition, and then being RIF’d again after eighteen months as they began their downsizing. This was a useful step for me in my transition into retirement. It also supported my knowing that my job needed to support who I was, and needed to be chosen from purpose and passion.
  • Making the choice to retire and become a coach.  My transition into retirement is not completed, nor will it be for many years. However, I realized early on that I wanted a meaningful and purposeful retirement. Five days a week on the golf course was not the life I wanted to live for the next thirty years.
  • Discovering I have Fibromyalgia and Diabetes, and knowing that unless I take excellent care of myself, these chronic diseases will get the best of me.

So, have I answered “what problem am I the solution to?”

Every ending is the start of a new beginning. It’s normal to mourn the part of the journey that is coming to an end. It is what we know, and there is often fear of the unknown as we begin that next part of life’s journey. Sometimes, it is extremely difficult to end the portion of the journey that it is now time to let go of, and we vacillate back and forth for a very long time before we take a big breath and say “Okay, I’m ready, let’s go.” This is when I needed a coach, and I am thankful she was there to help me move through some incredibly tough times. The joy is in taking that next sweet step, and knowing it is the right step for you.

So, the problem: Change is a way of life, and is something we both embrace, and move with, or we become stuck.

The solution: If we are willing to move with the change, but are having difficulty, it is often helpful to hire a coach to help create clarity around the situation, focus on what it is we really want the outcome to be (vision), help us set goals and choose the next step, and the next, and the next, until we achieve the grace and luminosity of knowing we are on the path we are meant to be. All the while, providing support and encouragement as we make the shifts we need to make as we move forward.

This is what I know, but it is my truth. You must seek and find yours.

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What Are You Willing To Delegate?

November 20, 2009 in Motivation, Purposeful Employment, success, Values

Knowing who you are, and what makes you happy, determines where you will do well.  Knowing what you are not strong at, and hiring someone else to do that for you, will round out  what the company needs to be successful.  I read  a blog today about how to know if you will be good at sales – just because cold calling is about number one on my list of things I really don’t like to do.  I will find a million other things to do before forcing myself to make that dreaded phone call.

I much prefer to create my “To Be” list, and then my “To Do” list at the beginning of my day.  My “To Be” list consists of the values I am willing to live into for the day.  For example, today I am willing to be:

  • Patient
  • Compassionate
  • Open-minded
  • A good listener
  • A great coach
  • Focused
  • Creative

My “To Do” list is split into two parts.  The first part consists of those tasks I commit to getting done today.  On it are some household chores; my weekly time with my spouse sharing whether our marraige ranked as a 10 this last week, and if not, what we are willing to do to move up the ranking for next week; several coaching sessions; release of my holiday special Fearless, Feisty and Free to Succeed teleclass to begin in January, 2010; and my exercise time.  The second part are those tasks I’m handing over to my higher power to handle for me, providing me with everything I need to live an abundant life. 

Kind of like hiring an expert sales person – with the strengths to round out what the company needs to be successful.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  She provides support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow.  Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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