Book Review: Beyond Reason
December 14, 2010 in Grief, Healing, Love
Wow! You will find emotion, thought-provoking ideas, and many tender stories packed into a short 110 page book that will take you just a couple of hours to read. Beyond Reason is a book about the loss of a gifted child, and his father’s search for light and meaning over the next fifteen years.
As a physician, Gregg Korbon approached many things in life from a scientific viewpoint. His life was harried, and without depth in terms of human emotions and connection. Dr. Korbon was immersed in academics and spent his professional time buried in facts and scientific proof. He spent much of his home life dealing with two children who did not come in to this world in the best of health. After the death of his son, Brian, Dr. Korbon began to open himself to the embracing warmth of love and the magic of the universe. Reaction to Brian’s death took his father down many paths, from metaphysics to psychic phenomenon, learning about the waves of energy flowing around and through us as we dance our life’s story.
Two concepts really stuck out for me as I read of Gregg’s experiences over the years as he sought to relieve his pain from the loss of his child. First, his thoughts and ideas around the process of letting go are profound and far-reaching. He concentrated on letting go of fear – the fear of getting close to people, the fear of activities unknown to us, and the fear of dying. I was struck by what I was reading, and the synchronicity of messages, as I had just completed giving a class in which I had shared Deepak Chopra’s Principles for Spiritual Optimism. His third principle is that “you belong in the scheme of the Universe. There is nothing to be afraid of. You are safe. Fear cannot be trusted.” The tenth and final principle is letting go – the path to freedom. I have been experimenting with this concept in my own life recently – letting go of the fear, knocking down walls, being who I really am. It has been surprisingly liberating and has drawn people in to my life I might never have met before, and deepened relationships that go back forty years and more.
The second concept that held deep meaning for me calls on us to believe in magic and re-learn what we have forgotten as we trained to become adults in a weary and cynical world. We won’t re-learn this magic through the teaching of other adults as much as we will by allowing the children in our lives to teach us. They are in tune with the Universe, and speak of it’s miracles through their actions, their words, and their wonder. If we only sit down and really listen to them, we will remember. Deepak Chopra’s first principle of Spiritual Optimism says that the “healthiest response to life is laughter. It is an antidote for fear and sorrow.” Remember the laughter of your small children as they danced and played through their days? They are full of imagination and have the answers to our problems. We steal that from them by subjecting them to hours and hours of television rather than reading to them, doing crafts with them, and talking to them about magic and miracles. The next time I am spending time with my grandchildren, it is my intention to really pay attention to our conversations – knowing that I have much to re-learn about the joy and power of the Universe.
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.