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June 4, 2010 in Grief, Knowledge, Motivation, Purpose, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Thought

13 Things To Know If Your Child Goes Missing

Many parents I have come across have asked me to include a blog dealing with what I and other parents learned while dealing with the unimaginable happening, having your child go missing. Below is a compilation of things I found to do when my son of 20 years went missing for almost two years. We did find him. Not the ending we were hoping for but we did at least find him!

Immediately call (911) and all other local law enforcement agencies: Do not stop after you have called 911. Depending on your circumstances, contact your local Police Department, County Sheriff, State Police or Highway Patrol, law enforcement in surrounding jurisdictions and the Border Patrol if applicable. Remember, there is no 24 or 48-hour waiting period. If you meet resistance demand to speak to the watch commander and insist that they take a report and enter the information into the National Crime Information Computer (NCIC) at once.
Notify the Federal Bureau of Investigation: If you suspect a predatory abduction. The FBI will initiate a kidnapping investigation involving a missing child of tender years, defined as a child twelve years or younger, even though there is no known interstate aspect. The FBI will monitor other kidnapping situations when there is no evidence of interstate travel, and it offers assistance from various entities including the FBI Laboratory. They have written protocols, dedicated agents, unsurpassed resources and vast experience in this specialized investigative field.
Log onto or refer the responding law enforcement agency to www.beyondmissing.com: This revolutionary Website allows registered law enforcement agencies to immediately create and distribute missing flyers to other targeted law enforcement agencies using powerful Internet tools. Parents can also create, download and print flyers for duplication, but not database or electronically distribute missing flyers. There is no cost for either service.
4. Find registered offenders. Are there any close to your home? www.familywatchdog.us
Notify all local media assignment desks: The sooner television and radio begin notifying the community that a child has been kidnapped, the better the chances of recovery. It’s as simple as that.
Notify your local non-profit Child Locator Service: They can provide an array of services pertinent to your situation. Child Locator Services exist to assist in the recovery of missing children. Do not overlook this important resource.
If you believe that your child has been kidnapped: Contact the National Center For Missing and Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST.
If you believe that your child has been kidnapped: Contact Team H.O.P.E., a parent support network for families with missing children. Team H.O.P.E. volunteer parents have experienced the agony of searching for their own children. They provide practical and emotional support for parents whose children are victims of predatory kidnapping, parental abduction, international abduction, adult missing and runaways and can be reached at 1-800-306-6311.

9. Sign up for wireless amber alert. The AMBER Alert^TM Program is a voluntary partnership between law-enforcement agencies, broadcasters, transportation agencies, and the wireless industry, to activate an urgent bulletin in the most serious child-abduction cases. The goal of an AMBER Alert is to instantly galvanize the entire community to assist in the search for and the safe recovery of the child. www.wirelessamberalerts.org

10. If you believe that your child has run away: Contact the National Runaway Switchboard www.1800runaway.org at 1-800-786 2929.

11. Keep your home phone attended by someone your child knows: Install Caller ID if you do not already have that service and record conversations. This may be the only way your child knows how to reach you.

12. Take care to preserve your physical and emotional welfare: Friends, neighbors and even total strangers will be working toward a successful resolution, but you must remember to eat and sleep regularly. This will be the most daunting and difficult journey that you will ever take and you will need sobriety, presence of mind and good judgment if it is to be successful. Seek emotional and psychological support from your church, a social service agency or even a professional counselor or Grief Coach with experience in your type of situation. Remember that you alone are leading the battle for the return of your missing child.

13. Remember – Never Give Up Hope! As long as you believe, hope remains eternal.

Additional sites I used and recommend are:

www.ncmec.org
www.amw.com
www.missingchildrencenterinc.com
www.missingkids.com
www.childquest.org- preventive etc

www.Klasskids.org

Some of the information here is from these websites.

Additional resources can be found at www.parentsgriefrecovery.com

Peace & Light,

Stella Wichman

Certified From Heartbreak to Happiness Coach

www.parentsgriefrecovery.com

“Who then can so softly bind up the wound of another as he who has felt the same wound himself?”

Thomas Jefferson

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by Stella

The Rebalancing Of A Family After Child Loss

April 14, 2010 in Acceptance, Balance, Communication, Compassion, Grief, Healing, Intuition, Knowledge, Love, Purpose, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Relationships, success, Thought, Understanding, Wisdom

When my son was found murdered, indeed even after he went missing I found that my family and myself instinctively knew that we needed to get itself back into the rhythm and balance that was lost when our Josh was gone. This feeling seemed to grow out of a necessity to not replace but to reorganize roles. I found that when your child dies there is a definite shift in the balance of the family and it helped for me to understand what needed to happen to again find that equilibrium.

It seems that the role of your child which held parental hopes and expectations, and was as well the object of love and focus of your family’s attention, is an important one, and its absence is felt keenly by everyone.

I observed families are a lot like an organization. They take on their own identity with their own characteristics and are more than the sum of their parts or in this case family members. They do not merely reflect the individuals that are in it.

In families it seems that when something happens to an individual it has an affect on the family and conversely if something happens to the family it has an affect on the individuals in that family. So for example when my son died I was preoccupied and withdrawn as I grieved at work and everywhere else for that matter which took my focus away from where it was usually therefore having an affect on others in the family. And because my focus was drawn away our loss not only was felt by each one of us but in addition it was as if my family lost me as well as Josh.

I have learned that families which have experienced child loss also work hard at regaining the balance in the family they had before the loss and may not even be aware of the fact that they are making changes to accomplish this. They may shift or change roles, rules, communication, expectations and behaviors to regain the equilibrium that stabilizes the family so it again operates consistently. There is no right way to achieve this as each family differs due to the uniqueness of its individuals.

My older girls each pitched in and spent more time with their little sister after losing their brother. They seemed to know instinctively that she would need that as he and she had been very close and spent a lot of time together. My oldest started calling me daily which she still does after 5 years as she knew her brother had regularly called me or visited on weekends and summers while in college. My youngest started turning into the family clown always trying to lighten things up when needed, which is the role her brother had filled in the family until he went missing. These are just a few examples of reassigned roles and obligations in our own family as we tried to reestablish a balance in our family again.

This happened entirely of its own accord in our family as water will move to fill a void when it’s there. Regardless of whether family balance is resolved healthily or successfully, the period of reorganization following a family’s loss I can say firsthand is very stressful.

I did find with other parents I have coached through grief that one must be careful of not doubling the grief for your surviving children by stealing their own unique identity by placing demands on them to take on the role of their deceased sibling. (Your brother was an accomplished basketball player and you should be too now) when they have no interest in basketball.

On the other hand sometimes if a surviving child has been in the shadow of his sibling (an accomplished basketball player for instance) he may be able to step into the limelight and shine now.

Remember that this is such an explosive time for each member of the family and one member’s grief can trigger another.

An accumulation of grief and pain in an individual or even in the family as a whole can trigger blowups. On the other hand at times the family can draw strength from each other and gain support and solace.

Recognize the need to look at each family members needs and weigh them against that of the family at times. An example would be everyone wanted to celebrate Christmas traditionally at home and I wanted to get away instead and so we celebrated out of town at my oldest daughters. It is important to strike a delicate balance so as to encourage healthy grieving and communication and unity rather than the opposite. Compromise seems to be in order here as each person finds that the health of the whole family is the goal and that each family member will have situations come up that will take precedence.

Remember that each family member does not have the same needs, grieve the same nor have the same relationship with the deceased individual. There are personal differences which must be taken into account. Individual factors are responsible for how each person will react to grief rather than similarity to others in the family or the fact that they all lost the same person in the family.

Lastly the very thing that helps which is the closeness of the remaining members of the family also can be the very thing that threatens to destroy the family. It is easy when we are hurting to place blame, be angry, make false accusations, and place unfair expectations on those we need the most due to irrational demands or fear of upsetting another in the family.

Although a huge undertaking the surviving family needs to reorganize itself to survive and must cope with the stresses of containing different grievers, each with different, unique needs. It is indeed a huge job and what is needed is patience, love, compassion and understanding.

Peace & Light,

Stella Wichman

Certified From Heartbreak to Happiness Coach

www.parentsgriefrecovery.com

“Who then can so softly bind up the wound of another as he who has felt the same wound himself?”

Thomas Jefferson

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by Stella

What Should You Say To A Grieving Parent?

January 15, 2010 in Acceptance, Communication, Compassion, Fearless, Grief, Healing, Intuition, Knowledge, Love, Motivation, Perception, Purpose, Rainbow Bridge Coaching and Healing, Relationships, Spiritual Connection, Thought, Understanding, Wisdom

ME 1 SEATTLE This question comes up all the time? People who have never lost a child just do not know what it is like. They often want to know what to say to help or what to say to ease their discomfort when encountering a grieving parent.

As a parent who has lost a child and as a Grief Recovery Coach I know that what is said especially early on after the loss can make a difference in how hard and how long the parent’s grief journey is. As both the parent of a missing child and as the grieving parent of a child who has died I encountered many awful and many wonderful things said to me. Most of the time when someone made a remark or an ignorant platitude I realized they just did not understand, other times when caught off guard I was hurt and often angered. Sometimes I recognized that it was I who was not receptive, especially in my early grief to many comments said to me.

But I am of the belief that people as a whole are good and mean well and just need to be enlightened a little so below are some good examples of the worst and the best things to say to someone who is heartbroken.

Things not to say:

It will just take time, soon you’ll be over it, I know how you feel, It’s God’s will, you’re young you can have more, keep busy and you won’t have time to dwell on this, be grateful you had him for this many years.

Things to say:

My heart hurts for you. I am here for you. I can’t imagine how you feel? Your world must be upside down? I don’t know what to say, what happened? Grief is a normal and natural reaction to loss, so what can I do to help? What was your son or daughter like? Tell me something about your child.

One more thing to know when talking with a grieving parent is that we do not want to be fixed; it is our heart that has been broken not our head. We need to own our grief at first as that is our connection still with our child whom we have lost. We need the chance to feel our way through our grieving stages to heal at our own pace. So please do not feel the need to hurry us along, instead acknowledge our loss, don’t ignore it or minimize the elephant in the room so to speak. Know we need support while we are healing whether it is listening, help with tasks, time off from a job etc. Realize that at times we need nothing at all said, that what we need most is someone to hold us tight when we need it and ask for it!

Peace & Light,

Stella Wichman

Certified From Heartbreak to Happiness Coach

www.parentsgriefrecovery.com

“Who then can so softly bind up the wound of another as he who has felt the same wound himself?”

Thomas Jefferson

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by Georgia

Your Job Search Marketing Program: Building Your Resume

October 24, 2009 in Career Coaching, Communication, Purposeful Employment

Is your resume formatted to follow the requirements of recognition software being used to screen resumes? If you were reviewing hundreds of resumes, would you be impressed with yours? Do you have an objective at the top, or do you top your resume with a summary of qualifications? Do you list your core competencies front and center with pride?

As you begin looking for a new job, it is important to recognize that you are putting together a marketing program to sell YOU, and a large part of that program is your resume, along with a dynamite cover letter. If your existing resume hasn’t been updated in a few years, it may be to your advantage to considering hiring a professional to help you create the copy. The market is flooded with people seeking work and your resume is your one and only change to get noticed long enough to get the interview. It needs to be targeting your prospective market with assertive and effective language that catches the attention of the person reviewing the resume, and entices them to call you for the interview.

Here are some simple changes that will help you get noticed.

Rather than a career objective at the top, replace it with a professional profile or summary of qualifications.
Don’t state the obvious, for example: will provide references upon request. They know you will provide them when they ask for them. And, they will.
Break out of the mold of standard resumes, and begin using some of the publishing tools available. Examples: WinWay Resume, Resume Maker Professional, Resume Maker Professional Ultimate, Resume Writer, Power Resumes, MyResumes, The Print Shop Pro Publisher. These software packages range in price from $10 to $70.
You no longer need to stay with the one page resume. Pack as much information in as possible.
Look at job board free samples for comparison, and then create a style uniquely yours.
Use key words throughout your resume. Prospective employers are performing key word searches to find prospective employees.
Page one of your resume should include your professional profile, a list of your core competencies, all software applications you have experience with, and the last two employers.
Page two – continue your employment history.
Closing – Education, Certifications and Additional information, i.e., volunteer work, board memberships, etc.

Are you impressed when you read your resume with an objective eye? Would you like to interview the person described? If you are not, go back and tweak it until you are.

Once you are satisfied with the document, get it posted on all the major job sites and send it off directly to recruiters. There are a number of posting services who will do this for you. For example: ResumeRabbit, ResumeMailman, and ResumeZapper, ResumeDirector and ResumeArrow. Some of these services are free, and some are fee based. Some things to consider before you post:

Do you need your resume posted on so many sites?
Do you have time to post your own?
Do you need thousands of recruiters receiving your resume, or do you want to be more selective?

Remember, marketing yourself is all about creating a competitive edge. Your resume is only one tool in your tool box. Don’t forget to network, read the classifieds and search job listings on all the career sites daily.

Good luck with your job search.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, located in Lincoln, NE is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. Her passion is helping individuals accomplish what they want in life based on their standards of integrity and priorities in life. She provides support and encouragement as her clients set goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

If you have been recently laid off, there are steps you can take to move you forward in your job search. Click here to get your free copy of Career Transitions, The Initial Stages.

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by Georgia

Two Common Questions You Should Expect in an Interview

October 10, 2009 in Communication, Purpose, Purposeful Employment, Thought

There are two common questions you should be prepared to answer as you go about the interview process. One of them you want to avoid as long as possible, particularly if you are interviewing for a job paying considerably less than what you were making before.

What do you expect your starting salary to be?

This is a conversation you should not have until you are about to receive an offer. Unfortunately, my experience has been that it has become one of the first questions you get asked. In our current economic climate, there are more people looking and applying for jobs than there are jobs to be had. Consequently, employers have the luxury of shopping around, and the answer you give could either screen you in or screen you out. How you respond is important.

Do your homework. Do you know the wage for this particular job in the marketplace you are applying to? Have you checked classified advertisements and online job boards for positions of a similar nature? Do your financial needs place you in the range, given your experience? The first step you need to take before you go to the interview is to mentally make sure you are comfortable with the price range. The position you are interviewing for should fit within the vision you have for yourself.

Position your response strategically. Make sure you have enough information about the position for you to accurately determine your salary needs. If you don’t, ask the questions necessary to provide you with the information you need. Your response could be “Before I am ready to discuss salary, I would like to know:

Reporting requirements
How many people you will be supervising
Skill levels and experience of the staff
Travel requirements
Work/time expectations
Organizational culture and values
How much others in similar positions are making

When all of your questions have been answered, and you can’t put them off any longer, your best response would be….. “Based on the information I know, I believe the position can justify a salary range of $ _______ to $_________”. Make sure your range is sufficiently wide to give the potential employer and you some negotiating room once benefits and other compensation are added to the equation.

Tell us about yourself.

You will get a form of this question in every interview. Prepare a sixty-second commercial telling them about yourself and how you fit their organization and the position being offered. Let them know up front that you intend to be brief. Then state succinctly who you are as a professional. Take care to highlight your interest and passion for the job, the accomplishments you have achieved in previous positions and the strengths and talents you bring to the table. You should include any education and skill building you have achieved to this point. Wrap it up with a strong conclusion around how this brought you to this interview. End it with a statement or question offering to elaborate on anything they would like to know.

Then sit back and wait for their questions, in silence. Do not feel obligated to continue talking, adding more information than they need. Silence is powerful, and shows your self-confidence.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions, located in Lincoln, NE, is a business, career and personal life coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. Her passion is helping individuals accomplish what they want in life based on their standards of integrity and priorities in life. She provides support and encouragement as her clients set goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.

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by Georgia

Writing a Blog? Three Recessionary Trends To Pay Attention To

August 28, 2009 in Communication, Values

Writing a blog is a new endeavor for me, as well as marketing my business. As I work with start-up entrepreneurs, I am finding that many of them are in the same boat and struggle with their branding and their communication in traditional marketing, as well as social networking.

Because I love to learn, and share what I learn as part of my coaching practice, I have been spending quite a bit of time reading books, searching for interesting blogs, and looking at successful websites. From time to time, I will share articles around clear communication with you that I have found to be of interest to me.

What strikes me about the following article is the pointed reference to creating value in everything you do, simplification or back-to-basics, and the use of measured judgment, or what they are calling maturity.

These are important concepts in coaching, as well as in communication. They create the foundation upon which you work to build the life you want.

Taking the time to identify your values and standards of integrity, and structuring your life around them rather than around what others expect of you.
Eliminating clutter and simplifying your life so that you can concentrate on what really matters.
Responding to opportunities that are presented to you rather than reacting to them.

I found this article to be multi-purposed, and am pleased to share it with you.

Planning for and reaching success can be daunting. I can help you work through the discovery of your purpose and your passion, and provide the support and encouragement you need as you develop the goals and action plans to get you there. As you begin to implement your action plans, I will hold your vision for you when the going gets tough and celebrate with you when you achieve each step toward success. We will work together to identify your values and standards of integrity, envision the life you want to lead, eliminate the clutter that gets in your way, and develop your ability to respond rather than react to all opportunities presented to you.

Contact me for my gift to you of a 30 minute coaching session, or log on to my website for your free copy of Collaborative Conversations, a weekly ezine of practical and thought provoking articles and tips.

Georgia Feiste

Owner, Collaborative Transitions Coaching

P. S. More free stuff – Career Transitions, The Intial Stages and Creating Focus at Work and at Home.

August 26, 2009

What Three Recessionary Trends Mean for Your Copy, by Jennifer Stevens

During the lion’s share of my formative years, my parents drove a midnight blue 1964 Pontiac Tempest. They didn’t get rid of it until 1986. AM radio. No air conditioning. They had it reupholstered when they added the seatbelts. But until then, stuffing would escape from the cracks in the light blue vinyl. When the windows were open, that stuffing would fly around the interior like the seed pods in a cottonwood grove.

We were hardly destitute. My father was a professor and my mother an elementary school teacher. It’s just that my folks didn’t believe in spending money on cars. That car got them from point A to point B for 22 years. And it was paid for.

I grew up with a recessionary mindset. Thrift isn’t something I’ve had to learn of late. But lots of people have. The way they feel, their concerns, and their priorities have shifted in the last 18 months.

This newfound thriftiness is just one recessionary trend worth pondering when you sit down to write. Because copy works only when it speaks to a reader “where he lives.” And that habitat looks a lot different today than it did early last year.

Now, I’ve mentioned thrift already. But let’s take a closer look at it — and at a couple more trends, too — and talk about what they mean for the copy you write today.

Trend # 1: Thriftiness. Even among the well-heeled, flaunting wealth is no longer chic. Have you heard about shoppers at Tiffany’s asking clerks to brown bag their purchases?

Time magazine reports, “4 in 10 people earning more than $100,000 say they are buying more store brands, 36% are using coupons more, and 39% have postponed or canceled a vacation to save money.”

As one financial advisor quoted in The New York Times put it: “Saving money is the new black.”

What does that mean for your copy? It means that good value is more important than ever. So look at your offer. Do you stress what a good deal it is? Can you make it an even better deal?

Coupled with the idea of thrift comes quality. It’s like my parents’ old Pontiac. That thing was built to last. And it did. In what ways is the product you’re selling “built to last?” How does it exemplify quality? Highlight those things. They matter to people now in a way they haven’t for years.

Trend #2: Nostalgia. When times are tough, people tend to retreat to “safer ground.” They romanticize childhood icons and symbols of the past, times when things were easier, simpler, happier. Have you noticed that those cute little fifties-era sweater sets are back in vogue? Record sales (I’m talking vinyl here) have increased 89% since 2007.

What does that mean for your copy? It means that “retro” images — created both in words and in the illustrations you choose — hold real power today.

We’re coming off an era of conspicuous consumption, and people are turning their focus away from “stuff” toward things that “matter more.”

The idea of simplifying, of getting back-to-basics has new-found resonance today. So think about how the product you’re selling helps simplify your prospect’s life. What kinds of solutions can your product provide that will help your reader recapture those “better days?”

Trend #3: Maturity. When times were good and credit was loose, people wanted the new-fangled … they’d pay for the hot fad. And they’d follow any young, swaggering bloke to get it.

But where did that land them? These days … maturity is fashionable. The idea of measured judgment doesn’t seem so geeky any more. People want to see accountability and responsibility.

What does that mean for your copy? Beef up your track record. Now’s the time to make a case for the tried-and-true. If you’ve got an expert with a solid resume and shining clientele, talk that up. If your product has been around for three decades, shout about that well-earned longevity.

This article appears courtesy of American Writers & Artists Inc.’s (AWAI) The Golden Thread, a free newsletter that delivers original, no-nonsense advice on the best wealth careers, lifestyle careers and work-at-home careers available. For a complimentary subscription, visit http://www.awaionline.com/signup/.

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by Georgia

Seek first to understand

August 16, 2009 in Understanding

Today I have had multiple conversations with multiple people about situations in their life where there was continuing conflict and an apparent inability to gain resolution. Over the last couple of weeks, I have been teaching a workshop on taking 100% responsibility for your life, putting the blame game out of your life, deciding what you want, and setting goals to get there. Part of the workshop speaks to when an event or situation occurs in our life, we should step back and consider the outcome we would like to see, and then construct our words, actions and behavior in such a way as to support that outcome. In order to do that, we must seek first to understand the other individuals involved in the event or situation.

There are times when it is difficult to understand the motivation behind an action being taken or communications being shared by others. Without the ability to have a conversation that is respectful, and to be able to ask questions that might provide understanding, we are almost forced into making an assumption based on the words or actions themselves. To a quite a large degree, this is dangerous. We can never fully know what is going on inside another person’s mind. Unless we know them well, we have no idea what they might be thinking.

Let me give you an example. Earlier this year, I spent three months working with a coach who suffers from central pain syndrome, and is a partial quadriplegic. The emphasis of our time together was to teach me the methods she is using, and was taught, to help people with chronic pain cope with their pain. Since I have a mild case of fibromyalgia, and a basic understanding of the disease, I would like to work with chiropractors, physical therapists and doctors with fibro patients who don’t want to take medication to control the pain, and are willing to try other methodologies. However, I wanted to learn more, specifically from people with fibromyalgia. So, I made a request on several Fibromyalgia boards for volunteers who would be willing to talk to me, share what has worked and what has not worked for them, and how it has affected their belief systems, self-esteem, etc. One of those boards was on Facebook. Today I got nailed with a rant from a member of the board for trying to sell bogus miracle cures and lead people down a path of false hopes just to make a buck. She reported me to Facebook and proceeded to libel me within the group.

Do you have the picture of the event? Good. The outcome I would like to have is for her to stop ranting, and for others in the group to understand that I just want to learn more so the work I do with clients who want my coaching services is the best it can be. Since I can’t speak with this lady in anything but a public forum, I can only assume she has been a victim of claims for “miracle cures” in the past, and is terribly angry. This would lead me to understand she takes offense easily because of fear or limiting beliefs. She has also taken on the self-proclaimed role of monitor and protector of the group. Based upon what I know, which is very little, my response can only be 1) silence, or 2) diffusion by agreeing with her that it is incredibly wrong to take advantage of others based upon their debilitating pain. I have no intention of doing so, I wish her well, and send her blessings.

In this situation can I completely understand? No, I don’t know her. But, my first response was to try, and base my decision and response on that understanding.

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by Georgia

Communication: Others lose when you don’t speak what is on your mind

August 14, 2009 in Communication

As I spend more and more time coaching, it is apparent to me that clear communication is critical to the formulation of relationships and trust. When you are in a conversation that is profound and deep, you naturally have thoughts rolling around in your head about the conversation. When you keep those thoughts to yourself, you often lose the opportunity to share concepts and viewpoints that may create a deep and lasting shift in how the other person perceives the issue or opportunity being discussed.

In addition, when things go unsaid that should be said, ill-will could be the ultimate outcome. When you are operating in integrity, you will be honest and forthright in your conversations, working from the highest regard for those you are working with. To not do so is disrespectful to yourself, as well as others.

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