Last night I watched the movie Invictus about Nelson Mandela and the South African rugby team. Twice in the movie, the poem Invictus was quoted, and it struck me how the last two lines of the poem speaks to the core of my beliefs and what I bring to my coaching. For those of you not familiar with the poem, the last two lines are:
“I am the master of my fate
I am the captain of my soul”
We often speak of free will, and whether the choices we make in life are made consciously and with intention. Even when we are embroiled in situations that are full of pain and grief, how we handle them often determines the outcome. At least, our personal outcome. Stories that support this are told over and over by people who have lived through horrifying situations such as the Holocaust, political prisoners like Nelson Mandela, and individuals who have been told they are dying only to do so with incredible grace as they ease their friends and family through their own transition.
When I think of the choices made in reacting to these types of situations, I wonder why it is so difficult for us to make the same types of choices as we move through our daily lives. Why is it hard for us to consciously think about our reactions when we are confronted with a choice of anger or compassion; fear or understanding; non-judgment vs. condemnation?
Most of us react to people and situations without giving much thought to what it is we are reacting to. Perhaps it would be beneficial for us to stop and ask ourselves the question “What is it about this person’s actions and behavior that makes me feel the way that I do?” or “What is it about this particular situation that causes me to feel fearful, and is it real?”
When we believe we are the master of our fate and the captain of our soul, we understand who we are, and who we want to be. It is reasonable then to assume that with practice we will react less, look consciously for the truth of the situation, and take the appropriate action.
I wish I could tell you that this will happen overnight, but I cannot. This is a lifelong practice session, aiming for mastery of being and the growth of our soul. We have been given the free will to make the choices that will move us along our journey in all areas of our life. I wish you well as you take your first steps to consciously create the life you desire.
If you would like help moving forward with intention, please e-mail me to set up your free 30 minute initial conversation to see if coaching is right for you.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She specializes in career and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life. Georgia is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion. Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902.